Ethiopian Maid Publicly Abused.

What makes people feel that they have power over the less fortunate??

http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/video/2012/mar/15/ethiopian-maid-publicly-abused-suicide-lebanon-video

I mean honestly! I have a maid too & I have to say that compared to my last one, she is quite hopeless. I do get angry at her, I do get pretty frustrated at her - but never have I even think of laying a finger on her. That's just not humane. Nobody, no matter how frustrating they can be, should be hit or beaten. That's not up to you to punish her. Yes, you can scold her or point out to her what she did wrong and HOPE she will not do it again & maybe learn from her experience but what you see on this video.

To be fair, maybe this maid could have over reacted. Its just a maybe. Maybe she didn't want to go back to this employer, who knows! But whatever it is, the employer has no right to lay a hand on her like that. Like she's just a dog - even dogs are not treated like that!!

I got pretty upset looking at that video. Maybe even emotional. I know they are poor & went to far away land to earn & send their money back to their country. I know they are no angels - as I have learnt it myself, the hard way. But at the same time, the way we reprimand them shouldn't be so degrading.

I do scold my maid when she does something wrong. But I do not do name calling or hitting or whatever which could be degrading to her. It's just being human.

Please people, one hit, one punch, one drag of the hair ... it hurts. Try to have someone done on you before you ever think of doing it to another person. Love your fellow humans......

Hand-me-down?

I have lotsa clothing which my kids have outgrown too quickly. They are in pretty good condition since they have been hand washed and dried in the sun. Those are quality stuff and too beautiful to be just thrown out.

My brother recently had a baby. She is this tiny little thing. My brother is a first time daddy & was asking for a lot of advise. One thing he seems not to be opened to is hand-me-downs.

It could largely be due to his wife. And I don't really blame her. When I was a new mommy, I even got offended when people wanted to offer hand-me-downs. I felt like they took me as a bin. Where they could dump their unwanted stuff without guilt.

So when my sis-in-law refused it, I can understand where she is coming from. The sad thing comes down to me having all these still-in-good-condition stuff/toys/clothings since I maintained them well. Oh well. 

Eventually I would have to let them go. I know I should but something inside me says there will be a third baby one day even though I am very stubborn about not wanting anymore.

If that happen, I would have to invest in those all over again if I give them away.:(

Life is tough ... Will I get clucky?

I've Been Slacking

Picture this …….. you are down with cold, sipping your tea with lemon & ginger & honey, all wrapped up because you are the only one feeling cold while the rest of the world feels normal. Your head is banging most time, numb at other times, your nose blocked & your throat itch for a cough every 2 minutes ….

Every too often, you can’t help feeling sorry for yourself & it’s at this time when you start to dig up those sorry moments of your life & sms your husband like a poor little thing … no? You don’t do that? Well, maybe it’s just me …. :)

I was ill for a while - thus the reason for no blogging. Apart from being such a slack but hey, when you are unwell, aren't you given the green pass to be a slack? ;)

I was ill 3 weeks ago, got a little better but I gave my virus to my husband, very generously. He fell ill not long after I got well. When we got back from our holiday, I got it back from my husband… this time the virus was banging into the temple of my head with a vengeance! Mental note: Refrain from kissing your husband while one of you is unwell or high on virus!

Anyway, it’s times like these I feel like I have to do a lot of complaining , I guess hoping to get some sympathy. And my husband has been such a doll. He would entertain my nonsense since he knows I was just feeling very uncomfortable. Why wouldn’t he be? He also knows darn well that no matter how sick I am , I will get my butt off the bed to entertain the kids till they go to sleep. So honestly, he feels very bad when I am unwell.

Anyway, I'm so much better now. Was just that bit of complaining to you guys to keep up with my reputation while being ill.  Haha....

Losing That Baby Talk

Today I came into my daughter's room & she squealed "Mommy, stars!!!"  She pointed at the new lamp with stars on it. I suddenly realised that she said it right "Stars!"  She used to say it "Chi-Cha" As in Twinkle Twinkle Little Star - She shortened it to "Chi-Cha" for the whole sentence & had since referred to star as "Chi-Cha" .... until recently.

And I also realised that when she wants something she goes "Please, mommy, please, please!"  As if to show me that "Hey, you want me to be polite. I'm polite now. How come I still don't get it my way?" :)

I somehow felt she is growing too fast. Maybe it's pretty normal. She is able to tell the maid that she doesn't want cold milk but instead wants it warmed up, but not too hot, just warm. 

She has a whole lot of opinion over lots of things. It does make it more difficult these days jsut to get out of the door because she may not be too happy with the dress she is wearing, or her hair clip or the shoes didn't go .... Whatever.

She's only 2! I wonder how it would be at 16. These days when she is upset, the whole world can tell. Having said that, she is my first born and I did cultivate & invest more time with her. I guess secretly I expect her to be a whole lot better.

My 1 year old son - yes he is one but I feel like he is still a baby. My daughter might have grown up quicker since she knows there's another baby coming or maybe the myth about girls maturing earlier could be true.

I found myself missing my daughter's baby talk. We have never encouraged baby talk. When she said "Chi-Cha" we would gently corrected her "That's right sweetheart, it's a star." And yet, now that she said it right, I was like "Aaaw, she grew up too fast!"

Mothers! You can never please them can you?! :)

Anyway, I'm watching her grow ... and last night when both kids were giggling and laughing under the shower, I squeezed my husband's hand and whispered "Well done, hon!  We did it. Those are our 2 notorious little kids. And they are going towards independence."

It's scary. The feeling like they don't need you anymore becomes more apparent. It's little things like my daughter pushing me away at play school saying "Mommy, go home. I want friends"

Sob! Sob! Sob!  Haha ...drama queen .... i think if I am watching Mamma Mia again, (to that part whereby Meryl streep was combing her daughter's hair before her wedding & she reminisces her daughter growing up) I would probably break down in tears. Now I know how that really feels.

To be a mother. To have a part of you embedded in one (or two or more) of those tiny creatures called children.


I love them unconditionally. Whether they will love me back when they are older .... we'll see....

Flush It Down

Was just surfing the net and found HIS & HER perfect toilet. ..... Can you tell I'm a little bored? ;) Anyway, here's the verdict!

A BLING BLING toilet - Only the best! ;)

But what would be more appropriate for me is probably this one ;)

Haha ...  just trying to cheer the day up today!  ;) Have a good day everyone!